We are often times so caught up in our busy lives that we don't take time to evaluate our love lives! It is vitally important to realize that there are different types of loves; Healthy and destructive. I feel very strongly that this Post would be most useful to teenagers. The teenage years can be so confusing in regards to relationships. Researchers have studied two distinct kinds of love, Passionate and Companionate. As you continue on in this post, evaluate your own relationship.
Passionate love is what helps keeps things going; however, this solely can't sustain a relationship. Passionate love is fueled by emotions, sexual desires, and often times jealousy. The passionate love is one that excites, it changes continuously and is usually short lived. Passionate love is very common for teenagers. We often times mistake drama and fights with excitement. We can easily confuse ourselves into thinking those fights bring us closer together, they show how much "passion" there is. DO NOT BE MISTAKEN BY THIS! The love that lasts is Companionate.
Companionate love creates strong emotional bonds, the sexual desire varies and you become each others best friend. This relationship is stable, dependable with little jealousy.
May I make a call to all females, do not go for the emotional roller coaster, do not mistake drama for excitement and passion. The relationships that are "Fantastic when its good, and Horrifying when its bad"... they are no good. It is so easy to get caught up, to feel needed and desired. Do not fall to this facade. Companionate love is just that.... a companionship. Your lover should be your best friend, your support system. Evaluate your relationship, what do each of you bring to the table? What do you offer to one another? Are you a better person with this person in your life? Take time to ponder these questions. Sometimes it is difficult to get out of the Passionate love cycle, especially if we are trying to fill a void someone else has left. Stay strong Ladies and have the courage to seek for the healthy relationships. One that pushes, edifies and enriches your life! YOU CAN DO BETTER!
You are obviously very passionate about this topic, thanks for your thoughts! You mentioned that compassionate love creates emotional bonds, do you think passionate love creates any true emotional bonds? Do you believe that compassionate love can be realized in a short amount of time? I loved that you mentioned the importance of pondering the relationship, why do you think pondering the relationship is so vital? In your opinion what are the differences between dating and courtship and can they each encourage compassionate love?
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