Rethink your relationship

     We are often times so caught up in our busy lives that we don't take time to evaluate our love lives! It is vitally important to realize that there are different types of loves; Healthy and destructive. I feel very strongly that this Post would be most useful to teenagers. The teenage years can be so confusing in regards to relationships. Researchers have studied two distinct kinds of love, Passionate and Companionate. As you continue on in this post, evaluate your own relationship.
      Passionate love is what helps keeps things going; however, this solely can't sustain a relationship. Passionate love is fueled by emotions, sexual desires, and often times jealousy. The passionate love is one that excites, it changes continuously and is usually short lived. Passionate love is very common for teenagers. We often times mistake drama and fights with excitement. We can easily confuse ourselves into thinking those fights bring us closer together, they show how much "passion" there is. DO NOT BE MISTAKEN BY THIS! The love that lasts is Companionate.
      Companionate love creates strong emotional bonds, the sexual desire varies and you become each others best friend. This relationship is stable, dependable with little jealousy.
May I make a call to all females, do not go for the emotional roller coaster, do not mistake drama for excitement and passion. The relationships that are "Fantastic when its good, and Horrifying when its bad"... they are no good. It is so easy to get caught up, to feel needed and desired. Do not fall to this facade. Companionate love is just that.... a companionship. Your lover should be your best friend, your support system. Evaluate your relationship, what do each of you bring to the table? What do you offer to one another? Are you a better person with this person in your life? Take time to ponder these questions. Sometimes it is difficult to get out of the Passionate love cycle, especially if we are trying to fill a void someone else has left. Stay strong Ladies and have the courage to seek for the healthy relationships. One that pushes, edifies and enriches your life! YOU CAN DO BETTER!

Do we really have to have it all?

   The world is constantly telling us we can become whoever we want to be. We are told we can change ourselves and to always seek the absolute best. Why is it that we are constantly seeking to "one up" someone? I would ask you to ponder these thoughts before continuing on with this post.
    I have seen countless of people exhaust themselves with trying to become the best. So many people are wasting away money, time and energy to prove something. Those who are involved in this life style will never be content. We must be careful with the spirit of entitlement. When we become used to living a lavish life and having it all; we often are subjects to never being content.  When we focus all of our energies on the things of the world we must be leaving something out. What it is it we are neglecting? Our family? Spouse? Children? God? Sometimes our perspectives need to change. We need to refocus our attention on our divine purpose. We need to fortify our relationships and create peace in our homes. The scriptures, and prophets tell us that there is no greater joy than creating a heaven on earth; within our homes.
   Let us be more careful at what we "need". We don't need that huge flat screen TV, the latest iphone, the newest pair of UGG boots. If we would spend our energy trying to "impress" or please God we would find much more happiness and peace in our lives.
TRY this week to make an extra effort to make God your number one priority, check in with him..he will tell you, you are enough and you have enough!